We've all likely seen our share of bridezillas, whether in person or on TV, as well as numerous clips of fainting grooms or groomsmen, children who steal the show, or even parents who may be inclined to make the day more about them than the bride and groom. So with all of the other planning you're doing, how can you also be sure to avoid some of the most common wedding-party blunders? Kisses is here to help! We've asked our expert wedding coordinators and consultants and have put together the following list of helpful hints so that your perfect day doesn't end up on YouTube (unless you want it to that is!). Read on and enjoy and if you're a recent bride, please feel free to share your own tips on the topic by emailing us at
• There is no doubt this day is all about you! But we also encourage you to remember you are also the hostess of the largest event thus far in your lifetime and a big ego is not the preferred bridal accessory (sounds harsh, we know, but you will thank us later!).
• Be kind to those who have loved you and gone out of their way for you.
• At the reception be gracious. Thank everyone throughout the night. Try to thank all of your vendors that you actually see on the big day.
• Dance just a little, even if you don’t love it. Ask special family members to join you on the dance floor, too - safety in numbers!
• If you love to dance, by all means get out there! But also try not ignore your guests by taking breaks to mingle.
• Do not get intoxicated. After all the waiting and planning you have done, this is a day you want to remember for always! Not to mention, pictures never lie and chances are you will regret it long after the day is done.
• Write your thank you notes within three months of the wedding and if possible, do them in batches so it doesn't seem like so many all at once.
• Be as charming as possible all day long and into the night and try to write a note or card to your bride and send it to her via bridesmaids or a parent. This will be treasured always.
• Arrive at the ceremony site dressed and ready for photos.
• Do not drink too much. You will not be able to hide it if you are intoxicated and it will inevitably lead to embarrassment for your new bride and your families.
• Thank all of your attendants with a handshake and kind words.
• Dance with your bride every chance you get, even in a crowded room it will feel as if it's just the two of you.
• If you are not too shy, give an eloquent toast to your bride, her parents, your parents and guests, typically just before cutting your cake.
• Limit your smoking and smoke only in designated places (of course kicking the habit altogether would also be a great way to start your happily ever after!).
• Have breath mints on you at all times throughout the day.
• Be prompt.
• Arrive at the wedding site dressed, pressed and ready to greet wedding guests.
• Be positive and kind to guests.
• Be especially kind to the elderly guests when seating them at the ceremony.
• Make a serious effort to see the bride and wish her well.
• Be supportive of the groom and his wishes.
• Offer to do whatever needs to be done.
• Do not promote heavy drinking and remember you may be called on to help with guests who have overindulged.
• Be prompt and be gracious all day long.
• The moment you slip and let negative words out…it is too late to take them back
• Even though you may have spent a fortune for the event, remember not to complain or brag about it.
• To blended families, remember to BLEND all day. The bride and groom are not the reason parents separated or divorced. Put your personal feelings aside and rise to the occasion.
Parents of the children in the wedding party:
• Be prompt.
• Make certain that the children have had naps and snacks before arriving.
• Dress children at the wedding site to avoid wrinkles, dirt and accidents. Come prepared to dress them quickly and without interrupting the adults.
• This really is a day when children should be seen and not heard.
• Parents are not to force children down the aisle. If they resist, move away and let the processional continue. (And brides, when you choose a ring bearer or flower girl, be prepared that they may be having a bad day and it is better that they be left out than become the center of attention)
• Have a small treat of some sort (non-food related) after they have completed their role such as a toy, stickers, coloring book, etc.
• Whisk them away to the baby-sitter after the pictures have been taken so both you and they can enjoy their night.
• Beam with pride if they did as told and accept all the accolades for the beautiful children…well done!
Feel free to share these tips with members of your own wedding party so you can be worry-free on your wedding day and all will go just as you envision it!
Kisses for now!